Many men are turned off by “church” because of the way it has become feminized in these last forty years.  Some of the contemporary songs and images of God’s love does not connect with the average man.  Take for instance the concept of divine romance.  The combination of these two concepts does not excite the average “Joe the Construction Worker.”   Let’s face it, men don’t respond very well to, “Jesus, lover of my soul,” and “I want to fall in love with You.”  If we want more biblical masculinity in our churches, then maybe we should stop condoning these depictions of God as some ethereal Elvis Presley or a majestic Marvin Gaye.  God has not revealed Himself in Scripture as some helpless romantic.

So is there a love, other than romantic love, that calls men to repentance and accountability?  Can there be something stronger than romantic love?  Is there a love that challenges men to be spiritual leaders in their home, church and community?  YES, it is called Biblical love.

In the OT book of Hosea, God tells Hosea to marry a prostitute and have children with her.  God told Hosea to do this to provide His people with a vivid picture of His kind of love.  No, this was not romantic love, but a commitment to love no matter how unfaithful Israel was.  What kind of person would commit himself to an unfaithful spouse?  What kind of love is that?  Biblical love.

“See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God…” (1 John 3:1 ESV).  Do we know for sure it wasn’t romantic love?  Well, don’t take my word, let the Bible answer that question: For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son (John 3:16) – no romance there.  By this we KNOW love {Biblical love}… that HE laid down His life for us… (1 John 3:16a).  Romantic love?  NO, that’s not love!

OH, what love He has for us, that He would give His life… that’s love

Jesus went to Calvary to save a wretch like you and me… that’s love

They hung Him high, stretch His wide, He hung His head, for us He died… that’s love

But that’s not how the story ends because in three days HE rose again… that’s love

OH what love He has for Us!!!

Advice from a Muslim and a Request from the Apostle Paul – A Good Combination!


If you had an opportunity, beginning with Moses and all the prophets to share everything about Christ on a seven-mile walk, would you do it?  Or better question, could you do it?

If you are not familiar with this episode in Scripture, it is recorded in Luke 24:13-27.  Jesus interpreted to those two men all the things concerning Himself on the road to Emmaus.  I have always read those verses and secretly thought to myself, “I wish God would give me an opportunity like that, I sure will take full advantage of it.”  Have you ever had that thought?  Then read this story and take heed.

Every summer I make it my goal to share the gospel with at least two people.

This summer I was walking with two camp workers and we saw a chalkboard that they just built in Central Park (not NYC).  It read, “Before I die, I want to…” As the three of us walked, the two of them announced what they wanted to do and then one turned to me and said, “Mr. Spivey, what about you?”  I couldn’t believe it.  It was just like Jesus on the road to Emmaus.  I said, “Before I die, I would like to tell as many people as possible about the Amazing things that Jesus did.”  They both chimed in like a rehearsal for a video, “Oh, that’s a good one.”  Then one of the workers, who happened to be a Muslim, said something that stung like a wet switch on dry skin; because of the timing and his childlike delivery, I know it was sincere.  He said, “Why do you have to wait until then, you can start right now.”  I was not prepared for that comment.  I said something lame like, “Most people think Jesus was only a prophet, but they just don’t know what He has accomplished.”  And then I just stopped.  There was an awkward quiet moment, and then I said, “By the way, what does a dog have to do with Taco Bell?”

I had an opportunity of a lifetime and I switched the conversation to Taco Bell.  Taco Bell?  I felt like that apostle Peter when the Lord looked at him when he denied Jesus the third time.  I will heed that advice, but I have to mix it with Apostle Paul’s request to the Ephesians: “Making supplications for all the saints, and also for me, that words may be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel” (Ephesians 6:18-19).  Yes, thanks to my Muslim friend, I will change my goal from two to many, AND solicit as many prayers as I can for boldness.  Will you be willing to pray for me this summer?

Brian Spivey


The Bible the Book of Mankind



“Other books may belong to a people, an age, a stage of human development; this book belongs to all peoples, all ages and all stages of growth, whether of the individual or of the race—unifying them all and welding them into one vitalized and vitalizing whole.  The Bible is, by way of eminence, the book of humanity.”

B.B. Warfield


How is your End Time Theology?


I didn’t want to use the word ‘Eschatology’ in the title, because it might just intimidate people, but the theological word for the study of the end times is generally understood as eschatology.  Most people may not even be aware of their beliefs about eschatology, while others are just fuzzy and inconsistent in their understanding, but regardless of where you are in the spectrum, Vern S. Poythress’ book, Understanding Dispensationalist will help you see some things clearer.  Two things surprised me about this book: (1) his humble explanation of his own position, (2) his gracious approach to those who may embrace a different eschatology.  This is a short book (137 pages), and he spent the first five chapters graciously suggesting approaches that would aid in God-honoring dialogue between Dispensationalist and Non-Dispensationalist.  It was clear from the opening pages, that his intention was to spur theologically rich conversations in a Christ-like manner.  It was a great book.  If you decide to read it, let me know what you think.

Brian Spivey